Resources for parents

What do you do when your child announces that they are trans, tells you they were “born in the wrong body” or says they have a new gender identity and want to change their name and pronouns?

What action can you take when you find out that your child’s school is encouraging a child to use the toilets or changing rooms for the opposite sex?

Here are some starting points for parents looking for support, advice and information (mainly focused on the UK) about how to help gender-questioning, gender-distressed and trans-identifying children.

Support for parents

Bayswater Support Group offers parents whose children have a transgender identity somewhere to talk, share and be understood. Read its Top Ten Tips for when your child says they are trans

Our Duty is an international support network for parents who wish to protect their children from gender ideology.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans (PITT) is a space for parents that have been impacted by gender ideology to share their uncensored stories, experiences, and thoughts

4thWaveNow is a supportive place for those concerned about medical transition of minors and young adults (US website)

Advice from therapists

Brief Guidance for Parents (Stella O’Malley, Genspect)  

Guidance for Parents of Teens with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria, Part 1 (Lisa Marchiano)

New Guidance for Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (Lisa Marchiano)

Parenting a Young Adult with ROGD video (Sasha Ayad)

Gaslighting the Concerned Parents of Trans Children – A Psychotherapist’s View (Stella O’Malley, Quillette – you need to subscribe but it’s free) 

Support at Home and Beyond: Finding the Right Therapist for Your Trans-Identified Teen (Sasha Ayad, Inspired Teen Therapy) 

Guidance for schools

Guidance for maintained schools and academies in England on provision for transgender pupils – Helpful guidance for school leaders published by the Association of School and College Leaders, Chartered College of Teaching, Confederation of School Trusts (CST), Institute of School Business Leadership, National Association of Head Teachers and National Governance Association. (you can read our review of it)

Safe Schools Alliance – a grassroots organisation which campaigns to uphold child safeguarding in schools, representing parents, grandparents, teachers, governors, and health professionals: factsheets, guides and template letters to schools.

Transgender Trend – an organisation of UK parents, professionals and academics concerned about the current trend to diagnose children as transgender: information and resources – read their publications.

Sex and gender identity: keep your pupils safe and comply with the law – guidance for schools in England – Our guidance, produced with Transgender Trend.

Sex and gender identity guidance for schools revised

Safeguarding trans-identified children and adolescents – safeguarding considerations for trans-identified pupils in schools (Bayswater Group)

The Cass review interim report – the significance for schools (Bayswater Group)

Background reading and listening

Teenagers and gender identity – the evidence base, part 1 (Matilda Gosling and Stella O’Malley, Sex Matters, 2022)

Rapid-onset gender dysphoria in adolescents and young adults: A study of parental reports (Lisa Littman, PloS One, 13(8), 2018) 

Correction: Parent reports of adolescents and young adults perceived to show signs of a rapid onset of gender dysphoria (Lisa Littman, PloS One, 14(3), 2019)

Interim report of the Cass Review – an independent review of the NHS’s gender-identity services for children and young people

Irreversible damage: The transgender craze seducing our daughters (Abigail Shrier, Swift Press, 2020)

Inventing transgender children and young people (Heather Brunskell-Evans & Michele Moore, editors, Cambridge Scholars Publishing, 2019)

Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality (Helen Joyce, Oneworld Publishing, 2021)

Suggested reading list on gender ideology and online articles and interviews (Thoughtful Therapists)

Gender: a wider lens – podcast (currently with 90 episodes) in which two therapists explore the expanding concept of “gender” from a psychological perspective