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Relationships

One of the most basic places where sex matters is in relationships and family life, whether that means dating, marriage and civil partnerships or pregnancy, childbirth and parenthood.

Relationships – a man and woman with a baby

Sex matters when it comes to sex and sexual orientation.

What’s the problem? 

Laws and policies which say that people can change sex directly contradict the reality of sexual orientation, sexual consent and sexual reproduction. 

The law has long recognised deceit in sexual relationships as a crime, and that includes deception about what sex people say they are. The 1969 court case Corbett vs Corbett granted an annulment of a marriage on the grounds that April Ashley, despite having had sexual reassignment surgery, remained male. There have been several cases where women have been convicted of sexual assault for deceiving other women that they are a man in order to sleep with them.

The Crown Prosecution Service has promoted guidance which confuses sex and gender when it comes to sexual consent.

In October 2021, a BBC News article highlighted a problem that had already been much discussed on social media: that lesbians were being pressured and coerced into accepting trans-identifying men as partners. This situation developed out of the ideology that gender supersedes sex, recasting same-sex attraction as a matter of gender and casting gay men and women who are not attracted to the opposite sex as “transphobic”. This has been promoted by groups such as Stonewall and Amnesty International

Eroding the definition of man and woman in the Equality Act also erodes clarity about the definition of sexual orientation in the Equality Act 2010, which makes it harder to protect the rights of lesbians, gays and bisexuals. The LGB Alliance has faced a challenge to its charitable status because it supports lesbian, gay and bisexual people and defines sexual orientation in terms of sex. 

Updates

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Publications

  • Lesbians without liberty

    Lesbians without liberty

    With a foreword by Joanna Cherry, this document investigates how the UK denies freedom of association to women who love women.

    Discriminating against people because of their sexual orientation is a violation of their fundamental human rights. Alongside comments from many lesbians, we explain how the law needs to...

    24th February 2023

  • Freedom of belief matters

    Sex Matters’ response to a call for input by the United Nations’ Independent Expert on protection against violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

    16th January 2023

  • Response to consultation on Deception as to sex: proposed revision to CPS legal guidance on Rape and Serious Sexual Offences, Chapter 6 – Consent

    Response to the Crown Prosecution Service’s consultation on deception as to sex

    Sex Matters examines the proposed revision to the CPS’s legal guidance on Rape and Serious Sexual Offences, Chapter 6 – Consent

    19th December 2022

  • Groups defending sex-based rights

    Groups defending sex-based rights

    Overview of groups opposing sex self-ID in the UK, set up by individuals and collectives concerned by the failure of established third-sector organisations to defend women’s sex-based rights, child safeguarding and evidence-based policymaking. Also listed on our website.

    1st July 2022

  • Conversion therapy or just therapy?

    Briefing: “Conversion” therapy or just therapy?

    There has been a media report that a young patient has complained to the General Medical Council about Dr Az Hakeem, accusing him of “conversion therapy”. This is Sex Matters’ brief analysis.

    23rd May 2022

  • Why ban talking therapy?

    Why ban talking therapy?

    How a campaign to criminalise the most effective treatment for gender-distressed children made it from the margins to the mainstream: we look at the history of conversion therapy.

    3rd May 2022

  • Response to the government consultation banning conversion therapy

    Response to the government consultation on banning conversion therapy

    We reviewed the government’s evidence base and, like the EHRC, found little evidence to support this legislation – and a great deal that concerned us…

    11th February 2022

  • Rapid review of Coventry University research on conversion therapy

    Is there evidence to support the proposal to criminalise people who engage in talking therapies “aiming to change someone from being transgender”? Sex Matters doesn’t think so.

    3rd November 2021